Why You Keep Ending Up in the Same Patterns — And What To Do About It
Welcome,
In this series, I share a few unscripted video reflections — from the present moment, from my own journey, from what I've lived and learned.
They explore conditioned patterns: what they are, how they work in the background, what happens in your body and inner world when you begin to step out of them and speak more from your truth — and what you can actually do about it.
These videos weren't recorded in one sitting. They come from different moments, different energies. Some are more reflective, some more raw. That's intentional — because this is exactly what the journey looks like. Not linear. Not polished. Real.
I recommend watching them in order, as each one builds on the last.
You'll also find two guided practices at the end — to help you go deeper with what the videos open in you.
Enjoy. And if anything lands or stirs — I'd love to hear.
Enjoy
Important note: While I share much about what we can do to help ourselves, remember that this is for educational purposes only. If what you are feeling is overwhelming or too strong, it is important to get more support from a coach, mentor or therapist.
Video 1: what I learned from a ballet dancer about patterns.
In the first video, I share a story about an encounter with a ballet dancer that stopped me in my tracks. It's a story about two people who discovered they were caught in the same kind of cage — just in completely different ways. And it changed how I saw my own patterns forever.
The blog article I reference in the video is called ‘On Conditioned Patterns: What is really longing to be expressed & flow in you’ and lives in my main blog, Opening to the Field.
Video 2: Oh those critical voices that raise the alarm when we share from our authentic voice
The second video speaks to what can arise when we begin to express ourselves more openly — the critical voices, the contraction, or what can feel like shame or self-doubt. I also share a simple way to support your system in those moments, so you’re not left navigating that alone. Watch what happened for me right after I recorded the first video, and what I did about it.
Feeling these feelings or hearing these critical inner voices isn’t a sign that something is going wrong. Often, it’s a sign that you’re moving closer to something more true, and your system is responding in the only way it has learned to stay safe.
Video 3: How to start noticing subconscious patterns
In the third video, I come back to the idea of patterns, how we can start to notice them more clearly and what it means to have choice around them.
When feelings & patterns become visible, we can begin to relate to them differently and help our system feel safe stepping into new ways of being and doing. I also share why it can be important to do this one small step at a time.
A simple tip to support yourself more:
In the videos on this page I wove in a few easy somatic and nervous system tips to help support yourself.
I wanted to add here that these days, nervous system regulation has become its own industry. Vagus nerve practices, somatic tools, breathwork protocols. And yes — these things matter and are truly helpful..
But finding ones that work for us, learning them and actually doing them can sometimes feel effortful and like another thing we have to get through on our busy to do list. And that can cause stress, which we want to avoid.
So here's an invitation to remember something else as well:
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Video 4: What you can do to work with your patterns
In the fourth video, I share something I wish someone had told me at the beginning of my own journey. Breaking free from patterns is actually two things, not one. Without both, we tend to just fall back into old ways of functioning. I share why creating space is often the most uncomfortable — and most important — thing you can do.
You can find two guided practices right below this section that speak to what I share in the video.
Two guided practices for you, if you’d like to deepen into your inner journey:
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Re-Remember — A guided practice
Use this to help you ‘rewild’, shift out of any inner state, connect more with your whole expansive self and the sacred wisdom that is a natural part of you.
Being With What Wants to Be Seen
A guided embodied grounding & journalling practice to help you meet your patterns & feelings
Please be sure to watch the short video before doing the practice below.
It will help you orient in the practice.
Being With What Wants to be Seen
For this guided embodied grounding & journalling practice you’re going to need a space in which you can get comfortable for some deep embodied grounding and pen & paper or a journal.
Please be sure to watch the video above first.
Thank you for being here and for watching.
I hope something in these videos and practices has landed — a story, a moment of recognition, a small shift in how you see yourself or your patterns.
And if anything stirred — I'd love to hear. You can always reach me by replying to any of my newsletter emails.
With heart,
Julia
Author’s note:
Julia’s reflections arise from her own Soulpreneur journey, woven together with professional training in somatic and trauma-informed approaches, mindfulness, and decades of lived experience exploring embodiment, intuition, and inner transformation. You can learn more about her and her professional background here.