Stepping out of Push-Pull Cycles
Stop the inner tug-of-war
A map for the soulful human who is currently exhausted or in tears - when pushing harder no longer works – and simply “taking a break” isnt enough
(aka : The Inner Achiever’s Guide to Letting Go of the Inner Tug-of-War)
We all know Push, when it’s in the driver’s seat:
It’s that humming, focused energy where the checklists are getting ticked, the soul-project is moving, and you finally feel capable. and you’re moving forward.
We crave that version of ourselves—the one working relentlessly towards the business, the healing, the diet, the "shoulds" of self-care, or getting that dream project perfectly running.
We all also know Pull, when it’s doing the driving:
The fog, inexplicable blocks and exhaustion take over.
Or you’re staring at the wall, numb-scrolling, comfort eating, or absorbed in busyness with other things
You might call it a "procrastination problem" that you have to “beat” or “fight”, even with the little capacity you have.
To make things worse your inner critic shames you as "plain lazy" or other things that are neither kind nor helpful.
You work hard to fight against it
But essentially it feels like you’re driving with the handbrake on.
The exhaustion builds, the mood drops.
But you keep on keeping on to get to that Push-Thing you want.
You might even get a little angry at yourself.
Why you can't just do, no BE, the “Push-Thing" and finally get stuff done, the thing in order.
Is it really that hard…?
Sometimes a break will help for while…
So you can hop back into Push feeling refreshed
But there’s also the dreaded inner-tug-of-war Deadlock…
That’s the moment the soulful human hits the wall.
No amount of effort will help this get “fixed”.
It feels like a breakdown with overwhelm, weepiness, emotional exhaustion, fogginess and feeling burned out — all laced with a growing sense of doom.
You’re wondering how you ended up in this tangled mess when all you’re doing is trying your best to get your life, your business or things 'in order.'
This is the moment we realise something must change.
It’s when we finally stop and ask ourselves: What is our life actually about?
What do we really want?
Side note: this is a time you have to act quick, to get a foot in the door, before the cycle catches up again…
Hi, I’m Julia,
I’ve been there, many times.
The Deadlock is messy, but it is also a sacred window.
What if that fog, that drain, those feelings and that frustration are actually signals?
What if they aren't asking you to just "rest," but are inviting you to look at what is calling from underneath?
Let me tell you:
What I’ve learned is that you can step out of the cycle—not just one part of it, but all of it.
The work is not to push harder or to take more breaks.
The work is to get behind the scenes and map the forces inside the loop so you can reach a place of inner guidance that shows you where you truly want to go.
A place where push and pull work together, perhaps on a new path, even if its ‘just’ an inner one.
With my framework, I’ll help you:
Recognize your specific Push–Pull Cycle.
Understand your Deadlock point (and find the sacred gold in it).
Map the forces behind the Push and the Pull.
Discover what they are actually striving for.
Find the real goal behind the scenes so these forces can finally work together.
Find the path they can walk together
The process includes:
Two spacious sessions that guide you to
Find your somatic truths: listening to the deeper wisdom held in your body, underneath the pattern
Go on an inner deep-dive: using my multi-step framework that includes intuitive doodling, intuitive movement and somatic journaling to get to what’s really going on deep inside, underneath the emotions.
Journey into ancestral Layers: to explore similar patterns you may have inherited from them, and release them, perhaps even together.
A big dash of magic: With a moon-aligned ritual to help you release
A special worksheet to to use with the framework (let’s not call it playsheet just yet;)): birthed from my own push-pull dramas, to help you map it all out.
A guided imagery meditation: to support you to step out of the cycle
A guided somatic journey: to connect with your intuitive wisdom, which you can use over and over again
Nervous system support practices that are tailored to you: to help you ground in the changes you want, and create safety inside, so that you can take steps that move you forward without the push and the pull.
Are you ready to end the back and forth of "Working on Yourself"… and step into your life more fully?
Learn how you can stop the inner tug-of-war between push and pull without fixing but through deep listening and compassion.
Once you learn this process, you can use it over and over again to step out of the cycles.
Join the waitlist to win a Stepping Out of Push-Pull Cycles 1:1 Session Package
I am gifting 3 soulful humans a 1:1 Stepping out of Push-Pull Cycles Package in May and June.
When you join the waitlist, you’ll be entered for one of these spaces.
And if you’re not selected, I’ll be opening a small group version of this process in June — so there is still a way for you to move through this work.
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